Awakening on a Spiritual Path

My days are filled with work and wonder. Spring delivers bright breezy days, but little rain in my area. I plant, weed, mulch and water acknowledging my gratitude for the time and energy to live so freely and clearly.

I have returned to work - part-time, this month, and find that I have little attention for writing. My thoughts are occupied with the past and my family of origin. I still make that journey home at least twice a month. It is a world filled with expectations and ideas that did not need my needs and thus, I have not fulfilled. In my contentment I travel to a place that challenges the essence of who I say I am.

This family values worldly accomplishments over inner peace. Money over values. Possessions rather than love. However, the siblings who earn the big money, are featured in Money Magazine and headed to Oslo for new jobs are not the ones who show up when crisis calls or there is work to be done. It is not their absence that affronts me, but the admiration for their public assent that astonishes. Since this is not new revelation, I merely acknowledge what are now very old feelings and find my place in that moment.

I sat at the window and listened to the breeze move though the trees. I counted six varying bird calls. I smelled honey in the air. My coffee fresh and hot accompanies my novel and I follow the detective into the Moors. My only happy childhood memories are of spring with its sights and sounds. The house felt empty and quiet and at peace.

Acknowledgements of a Spiritual Shift

• I allow life to carry me, rather than trying to make things happen.
• I smile easily.
• I feel connected to everything and everyone, without exception.
• I live in gratitude.
• I think in the present moment and act from Now rather than from my patterns of hurt and distress.
• Worry is absent. Guilt dissolved.
• Conflict has lost its attraction.
• I release myself from my opinions about what others have done. It is none of my business what they think of me.
• I judge myself and others less.
• I forgive us all.
• I love as an act of giving.
• I say what I mean. I mean what I say. I do what I say I am going to do.

Live. Love. Laugh. Often!

Transgressing Gender

Last week I made the commitment to and enjoyed the pleasure of hearing Kate Bornstein speak. Hir appearance was sponsored by the collegiate LGBTQIA organization. Hir talk was encouraging, inspiring, and enthusiastic while addressing the topics of sex, bullying and you.

Here are some of hir talking points from that evening:

• Our imaginations are in thrall to the institutions of oppression. (Minnie Bruce Pratt)
• The names we give ourselves must no longer bind us to a system that would rather see us dead.
• More than either/or, how can I fit in and help heal this world? 
• The Bully system demands that we make a choice: male/female, black/white, right/wrong, day/night, pink/blue, in/out, gay/straight. 
• Each movement has named itself within the confines of the very system it was bucking - the Women's Movement, Gay Activist, Bi-Sexual Movement, Trans-sexual/gender, intersexed, ftm, mtf, all too terrorized to call themselves something other than male or female. We are beyond LGBTQQIA.
• Gender Outlaws will remain outsiders. When they come we will be divided into the either/or. What cultural law are you breaking by just being who you are?
• How can we find some common ground? We hold these truths to be self evident, that all people have the right to Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness. The issue is that mythologies with more power bully the world. That makes it hard to coexist. Our pursuit of happiness doesn't count. When did we stop saying, "Have a lovely day."?
• By leaving no option for a outsiders to thrive, a bully culture engineers its own demise.
• We are still behaving like junior high adolescents - not really children, yet far from adulthood. We use our clicks and insecurities to bully others into compliance. Some pass (survive) by hiding, fading into the background, or acting as if. But what of those who can not pass? What of their right to pursue happiness?
• The responsibility of growing up is to give a helping hand to those who are a few bubbles off center. We need to include - radically welcome - everyone who is being oppressed.
• Binary systems of classification exist only in our imaginations. (Nature has more depth and breath.) Dream a good life for yourself. 
• Yet, so much of what we dream as a good life goes against God. What happens after you dies? Messing around with sex and gender can get you sent to hell.

• Here's your "Get Out of Hell Free" card. (Kate instructed the audience to pick one up at the table on the way out. In case we forgot or were negligent, they were passed out by ushers during the remainder of hir talk.) Kate spoke, "Live you life. Do good things. Be who you want to be, living and loving. Harm no one and be kind. If after a full and loving life, you die and wake up in hell, give the devil this card, or a reasonable facsimile, (Kate held the card up for the audience) and I will do your time for you. You see, I made a deal with the devil." 

 
Kate Bornstein is a Queer and Pleasant Danger. This is hir blog.  Take the quiz on gender. Challenge the dominate thinking. Open a discussion. End the silence that separates us. Live your dreams.

This is the juicer I found while clearing the space at my families home. There were lots of appliances slated to be tossed. It was tucked in a corner, grimy with dust and neglect. Needless to say I was excited to carry it home. Yes, I thought about the clutter issues, but this is a juice extractor.

I like to buy carrot juice. It cost three dollars for 16 ounces and a better bargain of $3.50 for 32 ounces. I have found organic carrots for a low as $1.49 a pound. Sometimes less. At that cost I can drink fresh raw carrot juice as often as I please.

I love plain carrot juice, but at times add apple or orange to the blend. This particular find allows me to enjoy a treat I might pass up due to cost.

The dried pulp can be added to compost, garden, or broths to make soups. I have also added carrot pulp to muffins and cakes. It works better than grated carrots as the pulp is free from moisture allowing other fruits to be included free of the fear of gummy baked goods.

I am living blessed, daily.

Possibilities and Challenges

Before spring came...

You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope. ~Thomas Merton

 

Being a list maker, I start the process even before I get out of bed. These days, that's item number one - get out of bed. But before shifting even one foot to the floor, I speak my gratitude for waking up and having the blessing of getting out of bed both on my own and at my preferred pace. I once worked for a doctor who responded to greetings of well-being as, "Up and taking nourishment." I, however, am healthy and well, even on my achiest of days.

Today's aches begged that I go for raw foods and juices, but when I got to the kitchen I required coffee before I could juice. Still thinking... The basic list, if I followed it, goes coffee, read, write, make list. I read before sleep and was still jazzed to work on that theme. Sitting at the desk with my coffee I opened a new document and began to type. I have learned to avoid opening a browser window as that is a sure distraction from even making the daily list.

 

Here are a few tips toward a useful and supportive list:

 

• Use a narrow piece of paper.
• Brainstorm. Include everything - even the things accomplished before writing the list.
• Prioritize. What's important? What's urgent? What's fun?
• Divide. Today's headings are Possibilities and Challenges.
• Determine - places to go, things to do, people to contact.
• Complete and cross off.
• Toss. Either before bed, or when the next list is made. Eliminate clutter.

There. That's my blog posted, my list made, and I am ready to embrace the day with courage, faith and hope.

 

How do list work for you?

 

 

 

 

Tell Me The Truth

I've been applying for jobs over the last month. Granted, it has been four years since I was last looking, but things have changed. Included in the application process are assessments, questionnaires, and surveys. Employers have developed or hired companies to design and implement instruments to probe the depths of our psyches as well as our social interest, manners and behaviors. Rephrased repeatedly were questions about honesty, lying and telling the truth.

I answer the questions:

Yes. I always tell the truth. (It really pisses people off, especially employers. They seem to want validation for their ideas and policies and expect an "attitude" adjustment - meaning compliance, with a smile.)

One. The number of friends I had at my last job. (I go to work to work. I made that friend intentionally. I made a conscious effort to get to know her and determined that she might be fun to spend time with socially.)

Yes. I am more honest than most people. I find people trust me because they know I tell the truth. If they don't want the truth, they don't ask me. On the other hand, we are accustomed to people smiling in our faces and then sneering behind our backs.

But wait, this isn't just at work. Some people are practiced in social niceties. Me, not so much. I had a delightful lunch with my family. It was absolutely fun and playful. When I had nothing to say, I kept quiet. When a topic of interest opened up, I jumped right in. I happen to have a different opinion than everyone else at the table. I didn't mind, but they seemed to find it unbelievable. Since this was just lunch we parted and drove our separate ways.

At work, those social discussions rarely remain relaxed and since after lunch we are heading back to our shared work stations, whatever issues/feelings arise tend to linger on. I have found it prudent to just avoid offering personal information. At my last job, they passed out a survey to new employees so we could self-disclose. It was less interesting than they hoped as my favorite car was "the one I am driving." Favorite book, The Alchemist. Favorite vacation place, Berkeley. The supervisor stood looking at me with her head tilted to the side.

As I get older I have less interest in pretense. I am polite. I am civil. I am nice. I expect to be hired because I am competent, responsible, dependable, creative, exciting and willing to learn, shift and grow. I have applied for various situations, most within my field of learning, experience, and understanding. I also chose new and different positions.

I like telling the truth. I find it hard to follow fallacy even in my head. Even my fantasies have the element of truth, as in, it could be. Interviewing is next. I have a great smile, a seductive voice and broad and varied experience. I am here and I am enough!

Let us pray.